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My Secret Life of Discipleship

16 November 2006
This article is long. Possibly too long for you to tackle it. I’ll tempt you by telling you it has sat in my “drafts” box for at least 9 months now because I’ve been somewhat fearful of sending it out, which seems silly to me today for some reason. I’ve read it to some close friends, and in a couple of lectureship classes, and have had multiple requests for copies from some of those in attendance. It is affirming to have it’s spirit resonate with a few, and it is refreshing to engage in lively but loving dialogue with those who may feel defensive. I’ll remind all readers that I love the Church of Christ, and am living my life as a member of it, loving it with all that I have, and loving the world through it. Just start reading…those who are supposed to read this mess I’m confident won’t be able to stop. I’d love your feedback…
I’d like to introduce you to a whole bunch of us who are members of the Church of Christ who live secret lives of discipleship totally separate and apart from our church practices.
We span the ranks of our churches…we are ministers and elders, deacons and “lay members”, students and college professors, teenagers and senior citizens.
We live and move and act within Churches of Christ, and hold dear the idea of becoming more like Christ together, to become a church that is, in actuality, ‘of Christ’.
We are not interested in change. We are interested in Christ, and whatever we must change in order love Him more truly, we are glad and anxious to do so.
We are immovably committed to the Bible. But only inasmuch as it teaches us about and moves us closer to Christ…and we believe it to be the perfect tool for doing so, a gift from God, the written Word that was preserved to lead us to the Living Word. We suffer from a growing intolerance for people who use the Bible merely to defend and maintain strict adherence to certain sets of worship practices, beliefs, or political positions. And most of us are long past satisfying our spiritual zeal by fighting with other attempting Bible-followers about who is right.
We are trying to find out how to pray, and our longing for prayer is intensifying. We are not motivated by duty, nor merely to “lay our requests before God”. We pray because we long for actual God-contact. And in this area, in most of our churches, we feel impossibly alone and mentorless, and oftentimes even looked at as crazy or overly-emotional. We are looking to ancient monastics and mystics and their practices, and also to other denominations, to satisfy our need to be taught…we are not creative, we are desperate.
We are bright and honest and dedicated, but only some of us are educated. And those of us who are rarely point it out, and more often hide from talking about it. That’s because we put very little stock in the educated merely because they are educated. We have met people who are much more devoted to the Divine Master than some who have a Masters of Divinity, and have found them more useful in our own becoming more like Christ. We are not anti-intellectual, mind you. We love smart people. But we have the innate ability to spot unspiritual smart people, and we would define them as those who run after smarts rather than Christ, and mistakenly confuse the two. We want and need smart, educated people. But educated people who expose a lack of self-awareness and humility by expecting deference from others because they know so much, we just leave them to their ivory kingdoms and sorrowfully attempt to pursue Christ’s without them.
We are indignant sometimes, and defensive and rude on occasion, and every now and then, we are angry. For the younger among us, it’s because we feel like we’re being bargained with…asked to ‘please stay in a movement that doesn’t work’ in exchange for job security, or hero status, or at the very least, tons and tons of gratitude and affirmation…and we sense that the strings attached are too costly. For those of us who are old enough, it stems from feeling duped in our younger years, agreeing with things that sapped us, our friends, our parents, our children, and those we tried to evangelize of the very life we said submission to our system offered. Some of us are the ones that faithfully did everything our churches asked of us, and if it asked for more we would’ve done that, but we ended up not looking like Jesus. Maybe it is too much to ask, but we must: Forgive us our inappropriate, un-Christlike reactions to our wounds…we don’t mean to claim perfection of any sort, we only abhor those who seem to claim it themselves. And we are scared to death of becoming like that…and are angry at ourselves for ever being like that.
If you watch us closely, you’ll see that we have stopped complaining about the Church of Christ that we see (for the most part), and have turned our energies to becoming the Church of Christ that we dream of. When we are at our best, we are ushering in a new world, not just yelling at the old one. We are envisioning a new society in the wake of the old, not one that puts a period on the end of the sentence and starts a brand new unrelated one, but puts a “dot, dot, dot”, pausing long enough to look around at all of us, and wake up that it is already new, if we would just engage each other and the world we live in with true spiritual friendship.
That term, ‘true spiritual friendship’ really means something to us. It involves confession, transparency, and vulnerability. It involves mutual introspection for the purpose of personal and each others transformation. The word ‘and’ really means something to us, too. We distrust those who only want to transform us or others who lack the capacity to show that they too are in need of continued transformation. And mere intellectual agreement with the idea that “we all sin and fall short of the glory of God” doesn’t show us anymore. We need to hear confession. 
We give extravagantly to and through the Churches of Christ we attend, hoping desperately to play a role in redeeming them and ourselves. We figure that if the mission of Christ is to people, then bringing Christ to the Church of Christ people is as good a target as any. We constantly flirt with taking a few like-minded people and planting new churches, but keep faithful to our Churches of Christ either out of fear of new things, family love and loyalty,  or a deep sense of calling, or all three.
We give much of our money to our Churches and to others in our life in attempts to not be bound by it, but by Christ alone. But when we get to give sacrificially, it acts almost as a drug, giving us a temporary high, proving to ourselves that are motives go beyond our own comfort. We hear Christ telling us that we can’t be his disciples unless we give up all that we have, and we believe him, and want to do it, and respect anyone who does. We are tired of being richer than everyone else in the world, but are scared to do anything about it, because we think our churches will look at us as unrealistic, unwise, and bad stewards.
We give much of our time and energy, too. But we don’t always give it to the church programs, because we see that as tending to the aquarium, which we agree needs to take place, but we long for our efforts to make a God-honest, actual, life-giving impact on those outside the church walls with no strings attached. We are honestly clueless as to how to do this, but we have our ideas and are trying and wish our churches would give us a legitimate seat at the table as we learn as a whole group…and even if our churches are clueless too, we wish we were all being clueless together out in the open, determined to keep trying stuff until it works.
We’re taking full and total responsibility for our children, completely done with expecting from or blaming the church institution for their spiritual outcomes. We welcome anything it does to help, but we are picking and choosing and investing in relationships with the people that we want influencing our kids, and outright asking them to do so, thinking of anything positive that comes out of our churches children’s and youth programs as only being supplemental, and hopefully useful. We are watching closely, however, for any residual teaching that resembles anything legalistic whatsoever and are preparing to help our kids unlearn it, explaining our love for the church that taught it, showing openly where that teaching comes from, but correcting them as to what discipleship really looks like. If a Church of Christ wants to run us off quickly, which it may want to do because our convictions can be hard to deal with, or hard to argue against, then all it must do is start teaching our kids to be legalistic rule followers instead of passionate Christ followers. We’ll leave. We are already worried enough about what we are doing to them by trying to teach them discipleship at home while their church is trying to teach them why we don’t have instruments in worship.
Our commitment to Churches of Christ remains as long as we can be totally honest (as opposed to being totally right) among them.
Indeed, we have much in common with the Churches we exist within, and yet co-exist with dramatic differences. We are both committed to the Bible, but our approaches to finding its riches stand at odds. We are both committed to the truth, but our definition of truth stands at odds. We are both in love with the church, but our view of who make it up  and what it exists for are at odds. We both want to live in the Kingdom of Heaven, but our views of what that means and when that is to take place are at odds. We both want to see ourselves as primarily spiritual, but our comfort with embracing mystery are at odds. We both want to worship God, but our convictions on what the non-negotiables are, are at odds. We wonder if we can really co-exist. We wonder if we are going to have to wait for some funerals to expose ourselves and our thoughts openly in the Church of Christ. We wonder, sometimes, if we can really co-exist at all, feeling sometimes like we are tolerated by our churches only because we walk on eggshells concerning how we talk about what is going on inside of us.
But we sense there is one means of hope that exalts what we have in common, and minimizes where we are different. A focus that allows us both, different as we are, to continue becoming Christians in a way that does not condemn our historical Church of Christ roots, nor restrain or condemn those of us who want to grow beyond it’s limiting beliefs. The means of hope is for all of us to focus seriously on following Jesus.
The Bible’s overarching call is to follow God. Jesus’ overarching call is to discipleship. Our hope is in our mutual agreement to pursue the Restoration of Discipleship. Once again, and all over again, and in a brand new way…following Jesus can be our salvation.
What is our secret life made up of? The pursuit of becoming more and more like Christ in our hearts. We are striving to be prayerfully dependent, like him. We are striving to live lives of uncompromising integrity, like him. We are striving to define our lives by loving relationships, like him. We are trying to live daily lives of true and spiritual worship, like him. We are trying to become sacrificial stewards of everything we have and are, like him. We are trying to become what Scripture says we are, like him. And we are wanting to share this life-giving pursuit with every human being on the planet who doesn’t know about Jesus, like him.
We will baptize our children with water, fully immersing them in it as one of the many Biblical steps of coming into the life of Christ, but we will not have an obsessive, myopic focus on it ever again. We will no longer claim to believe in the “priesthood of all believers” when we actually mean the “priesthood of all male believers”. We will not ever again treat other Bible believing, Jesus following fellowships as lost people…and not because we don’t disagree with them on certain significant points…but because we have been humbled by our own disagreement with our past selves, and we hope people who died thinking like we used to were saved by grace, too. We will not write whole books explaining away the Greek word “psallos” to convince everyone instrumental music in unscriptural, we will not write articles and preach sermons focused on the churches down the street and what they are doing wrong, we will not draw lines of fellowship based on whether we should have Bible classes, kitchens, basketball goals, or multiple communion cups. The mere mention of such feuds embarrasses the fool out of us, and we swallow hard and remember our love when we have to be associated with those related to us who have or are.
We wonder if we’ll get to stay in the Church of Christ. Our intolerance for our own personal past and our churches intolerance of us may foil what we feel inclined and called to do, but day by day we pursue Christ sincerely, with all of our hearts. The good news is that it doesn’t take much to encourage us. Any step towards Jesus by any person at all fuels us to take our next one and we are anxious to use both as evidence that we are in the right place.
We want the Church of Christ to be a church that is actually “of Christ”.


41 Comments to “My Secret Life of Discipleship”

  1. Brian,

    You clarity of message is amazing. I am speechless. I need to digest this and reread it.

    Mark C

  2. My personal ministry is not to change the Church of Christ. My mission (at least right now) is to invite people from the institution down into the depths of community and into a more authentic expression of their Christianity. My mission is to try to provide an atmosphere where people are challenged to grow spiritually – To provide teaching and leadership that lends itself to transformation. My mission is to provide a place where people can begin to experience a real and living God in a very real and living way. My mission is to try to offer “college level classes” in Christianity. My mission is to leave the elementary teachings – wean myself off the institutions “teet” – and take personal responsibility for my spiritual growth. My mission is discipleship.

    The conclusion I’ve recently come BACK to is that, while there is definitely room for improvement in the forms we have in place in the institution, they are very close to being all that they can be. Things that occur within COC institutions will probably always be man led – and mostly man centered. The institution is there to offer “light connection points”- places where people can connect on a surface level. They are places where anybody (Christian or even Satanist) can come in off the street and get a small glimpse of what Christianity is about. A kind of “teaser” or “commercial”. The institution is not a gathering of the saints – please don’t misunderstand me – there are most assuredly saints present within any institution – but the institution as a whole is nothing more than a cross section of the society it finds itself in. Incest – rape – spousal abuse – infidelity – divorce – drug use – alcohol abuse – teen pregnancy…is very nearly exactly the same within the institutions as it is in the society the institution is placed within. In other words there’s a difference between those whom God has called out the body of Christ) and the institutions we incorrectly call “church” today.

    I’ve come to the conclusion that while it would be extremely helpful to have a life on life mentor helping me in my journey – it’s not necessary. Myself and my peers will continue to “re-invent the wheel” and in fact many times are probably “inventing the wheel”. I’ve come to the conclusion that this is my life – not anybody else’s – and as such I need to take personal responsibility for it. My spiritual growth is nobody else’s responsibility but mine. Having said that – where my leaders and teachers have failed me is in not teaching me HOW to take personal responsibility. They have failed me by refusing to disciple me (even when I’ve asked for it). I’ve had to discover on my own the “how-to’s” of spiritual growth. I’ve had to discover on my own how to witness effectively to the lost, how to live in community and unity with other believers….and many other basic tenants of biblical Christianity. Without malice or anger I say that I’ve not been equipped by the institution to do much more that sit on a pew. Fortunately God is breaking through the intellectual fortress that are some Churches of Christ. Inside He’s finding obedient servants who are willing to step out in faith and be led by His Spirit rather than their own intellect. He’s finding surrendered hearts who are truly seeking Him and truly desiring to live life to the full…

  3. great blog. if you don’t mind, i plan on linking/quoting your blog tomorrow.

  4. Brian,

    Excellent thoughts, and well expressed. You tugged at my heart with those words. Thanks for showing us how we can share our deepest selves with one another. Every time I’ve heard you speak or interacted with you you’ve impressed me as an honest man who models vulnerability and integrity. Your words in this post have done that again with poignant grace.

  5. Brian,
    I am new to your blog. David U posted this post of yours and I just read it.

    Nail it to the door! Wow. You have said it so well. I feel I am at the end of that rope. But you have expressed my feelings and motives so well.

  6. Brian,

    I wish this had been my post. It’s everything that’s been firing around in my brain and heart for the last few years–finally put into a written, coherent format.

    Thank you for taking the time to think about this post for nine months. Knowing that lets me know you didn’t just “fire this off” to the world. Like many others, I plan to link to it on my blog tonight. Maybe I’ll find a few more tonight in Searcy who feel the same way.

    I’m so glad you’re at my husband’s home church. He grew up with those folks you love so much now. With Daddy and Mother both gone to be with the Lord now, we’ll have fewer reasons to be in Amarillo, but SW will always have a special place in our hearts. I’m thankful you are serving the Lord there.

    Be strong and courageous!

  7. I don’t belong to the Church of Christ denomination, but I do belong to the Church of Christ. And I think believers in several denominations will agree with much of what you write.

  8. Brian,
    I found your blog through Toby’s. It’s been a while!

    Bravo! Bravo! Bravo!
    Like many others, I too am speechless. Well said my friend!

  9. Brian,

    It’s my first time at your blog. Excellent thoughts. I hope you’ll stay true to your mission.

    Grace and peace,

  10. Brian, excellent expression of heart and understanding. You put into words my thoughts. i love the church and i appreciate everyone in my background that taught me so much. i am especially grateful for those who taught me grace . i have a sign on my office doorway that says,”I AM STILL LEARNING”. May God bless of all as we honestly seek how to be more like Christ and help others do the same. In Chirst
    Mike Kellett, Mininster, White’s Ferry Rd. Church of Chirst

  11. Shine on my brother. So very well said!

  12. Jimmy, Tiffany, Abigail and Cooper

    Wow.This puts into words so many things my husband and I have been feeling and facing where we are. Thanks for your thoughts and your courage in sharing them.

  13. My dear brother,

    Your words could have been written by thousands of young men and women who are “several generation” coC’ers.

    I like a man who says what he says clearly enough for me to know what he said after he said it. You have done that, and I applaud you and every other man and woman who long for Jesus over every tradition of man no matter how sincerely born.

    In the end, what will finally matter is what I have personally done with Jesus Christ.

    I am blessed to set under the ministry of two fine preachers and a group of elders who long ago discovered the grace of God in Christ and have shook off the bonds of legalism.

    Preach on brother, the next generation will be more like Jesus because of it.

    Grace and Peace,
    Royce Ogle

  14. Wow.

  15. Amazing. Well said. I can’t believe others feel this too. keep talking!

  16. Wow Brian. I’m really late in reading this, but you are so right. It’s not that I crave institutional change, I crave ME change. I want desperately to EXPERIENCE Jesus. See him, touch him, know him. Be moved in my worship of him. Be of him.

    I look around at our church services and at chapel at the church of Christ university where I work and I don’t see anyone being moved by anything. I do see it in our students outside of those times. They are feeding the hungry, clothing the naked, and giving water to the thirsty. They are unafraid of looking beyond our tribe to find ways to connect with Jesus.

    Praise God.

    Praise God.

  17. Thank you. This is the conversation my friends and I have in our dorms, after chapel, and any other time we find a group of ourselves together, dreaming about what our lives and the lives of others around us would look like if we lived the Kingdom of God passionately.

  18. Brian,

    A friend of mine e-mailed this text to me to read last week to get my reaction. Just now I linked here from TCS who referred to this in a recent post of his.

    My reaction to my friend earlier was, “What, you been looking in my window?”

    Thanks for pouring your heart into this post. You said it so well, and you are not alone.

    And if there’s enough of us I say it’s revival time!

  19. I left the Church of Christ as a young man because I was disillusioned with a group of people who would send people to Hell for playing a piano in worship, but would take no stand whatsoever about dating someone who did not know the Lord. I was disillusioned with the unspiritual culture of the young people and the unwillingness of the adults to take a stand against their teens’ worldliness.

    It seems to me that there is a great change afoot in the Churches of Christ to abandon the dogmatic heritage that alienated so many members, not to mention non-Christians. I hope that there are more and people like yourself,who come to appreciate God’s grace as well as His desire for righteousness.

  20. Brian,

    Your thoughts on My Secret Life of Discipleship are quite something.

    Know this : God has you right where He wants you for His reasons…and if you leave the denominational church of Christ He still has you right where He wants you for His reasons.

    While I admire your tenacity and determination I must tell you that at some point in your life you will be brought to the end of even these nobel desires that you write about; all your trying and doing.

    Not until you see yourself in reality as nothing more than a mere vessel, a pot, a glass as the container of the Water of Life or as just the branch that is attached to The Vine in which you are the means of expressing HIM and He manifesting Himself through you, as you….you will be unsatisfied and frustrated. That’s just the truth of it.

    It is not your life you are living…it is HIM living HIS life in you.

    Now, if you have seen all of this and know it and are not working from a place of “got to, must do, ought to” then you are ‘there’ and I just bless on you !

    I simply know that with our cofC background we still carry around the legalism of works, thinking we have to do, do do do do do, even to change the church of Christ from within. And He will let us until we at last drop in our tracks from the weight and burden of it.

    I hope and pray that all you do is from the place of rest He promises and if so, when you are tired from all your doing it will be a tiredness of peace and contentment, not frustration and anguish.

    These are such good words….I should read them to myself each day !

    Ancora Imparo

  21. Rock on bro — well said.

  22. Excellent points and full of wisdom and truth.
    I knew there were others with my views. Thank you for saying what we have all felt but couldn’t express.

  23. Brian,
    surfed here from Edward Fudge’s daily post. You moved me to tears brother. As the other posts have said, you have put in words what so many of us feel–and I guess we’ve often ran from that word “feel”. The Jesus I serve is a Truth AND Heart God. We need passionate truth expressed through authentic love. Thanks for pouring your heart out.

  24. Brian,
    Just read your blog on “My Secret Life of Discipleship” It came to me on a GracEmail taht I received today. I must tell you that have hit the mark. We broke out into the open a few years ago and worship with a group of like minded Christians. It’s as if the clouds parted and for the first time I began to truely see Christ as He wants me to see Him. My family has grown spiritually in the past few years more than in our life of being raised in the “Church of Christ.” Wow, we finally get it. Awesome.
    I would love to add your blog to mine. Just let me know.

  25. Brian,
    Just read your blog on “My Secret Life of Discipleship” and I must tell you that it is geat to hear. We broke out into the open a few years ago and worship with a group of like minded Christians. It’s as if the clouds parted and for the first time I began to truely see Christ as He wants me to see Him.
    I would love to add your blog to mine. Just let me know.

  26. I found this so much more compelling than “A Christian Affirmation 2005.” Where do I sign?

  27. Brian,
    Thank you so much for your thoughts. My husband and I have been having these same feelings for several years. They have recently come to a head because our oldest daughter is in a serious dating relationship with a young man who happens to be a Baptist minister. Needless to say in the CoC we have gotten alot of negative remarks. We truly believe this young man is a true believer in Christ and loves the Lord and only wishes to serve Him. Your article may be just what we need to explain where we are coming from to our parents and others within our small congregation. Again, thanks so much! We praise God for your courage and ability to put into words what so many who have grown up in the CoC must be feeling!
    Blessings, Tim and Tammie

  28. Brian,

    Articulate and well thought out.

    Really, I had to get away from the CofC before I could actually appreciate and begin to inculcate into my life much of what you spoke to.

    Still in the school of Discipleship.


  29. I just read your blog and am reminded how wordy those who come from the tradition of the Campbells are. Stone might be more toward shouting and dancing but none of that for Alexander the child of the enlightenment.

    Brother as i have told you after 30 plus years out of “the church” being asked to leave, i have watched the move of the Holy Spirit
    though those who thought he did not do that kind of stuff. It is beautiful and now that i am back in it, I see grounds for so much hope. Press on to know Him whom to know is life everlasting and from to turn is to be lost forever.

    the country lawyer loves you
    john acuff

  30. I felt like you were reading my mind. It is great to know that we are not alone. Maybe the Churches of Christ can be redeemed.

    Drew Baker
    YM in rural TN

  31. Brian,
    I offer my condolences for your struggle. You are much more patient than I. I have found it simpler and much more direct to simply “move on” without the denominational ties to the Church of Christ (as opposed to the church Of Christ.)
    There are many of us out here who are with Bible-based, Jesus-emulating, God-loving and God-fearing disciples who have shed the constraints of those who would shackle us the way the Pharisees of Jesus’ time attempted.
    I made a 10-year effort at lovingly drawing my brothers in the cofc into the beauty of the differences you so wonderfully articulate here, only to have my forehead go soft from all the brick walls I butted.
    I wish you well and pray you have every success, I just don’t see the need for the effort: those who truly love God and seek Him will find Him – within or without the confines of a Church of Christ fellowship (or, more likely, building.) We did.
    Planting the seed, showing the loving concern and prayerfully offering them up to God has become my final solution, as my own spiritual health was at risk.

  32. Brian, I’m coming to this conversation waaay late, but a friend of mine linked me to your blog because I just posted very similar thoughts on my own – though not nearly as extensively or clearly as you. Thank you.

    (A brief aside: I don’t know if you remember me, but I was friends with Brantley Pearce.)

  33. Brian,
    I read this the other day and struggled with it. I was frustrated over a comment from a friend that we just need to “keep our eyes on Jesus” rather than try to bring about change.
    I agree with the concept in principal, but am frustrated in the fact that in order to create the kind of environment that reaches and ministers to people in a meaningful way, one must remove some of the obstacles that sabotage the efforts to get there. I’m not sure it can be done in the entrenched setting of the Church of Christ (especially in more rural areas).
    I’ve been trying to make a difference for the past 14 years but have become somewhat skeptical that it can happen in a practical sense. Think of all the people we have failed to reach because our efforts have been so heavily invested in moving the deeply entrenched into the light. I would like to know of some real world examples where real progress has been made and where churches have shed their baggage and have come into the light.
    Otherwise, I think Clem may be right about about the need to just move on. God Bless, Dennis

  34. From one of those head butting former CoC who sounded like you and is now 2.5 years removed, you are in my prayers.

    It was 12 years for me.

  35. Forgive my bluntness, but please stop with the hand-wringing. There are any number of faith communities where you can pursue Christ without the baggage. And if you are living a “secret life of discipleship” then may I suggest there is a much deeper issue than denominational heritage.

    Break free already…give yourself permission to go.

  36. brian. you have no idea who i am but i wanted to talk to you. my name is amber and i am friends with jimmy and tiffany sanders of whom you know. every once in awhile i will get to read the wonderful works you do from tiffany and its great so i thought if you do not mind if i ask you two questions: 1. our youth group from our church doesn’t really do anything.. well a few people from our youth group(teens) want to let our voices be heard the only thing is that we don’t think anyone will realyl listen. any advice? and then 2. what do you feel about clapping in church? well thank you very much!

  37. LOL – it amuses me that two comments back, you’re exhorted by a commentor to “stop hand-wringing” and to “break free already” – by one who signs himself or herself “Anonymous”. Now that’s freedom!

    Great post, encouraging to me. I think every denomination is inherently institutional, and the “secret life” is the only life there is. Our goal may not be to get away from the institution (as Anonymous suggests) but to be Christ amidst it. “Monte, why do you always need to be changing things?” it is as if God says to me. “Why can’t you just be like Jesus in the venues I give you?” I’m sure not everyone is led that way, but it has given me considerable contentment.
    Best wishes!

  38. Brian,

    One of my elders forwarded this on to a bunch of us….he liked it. So do I.

    It was too long, but not in the sense you feared. It was too long in coming. Few have put into words what has occupied the hearts of hundreds and thousands spanning generations.

    Hello to your congregation. I like being with them!

  39. What an incredibly well-written article! I echo what most have said…. God Bless you for articulating what so many of us multi-generational church-of-christers have been thinking for decades.

    Thank you!

    -Tim Martin, Riverside Church of Christ, Gassville, AR

  40. Found this quite old blog post, but despite it now being 2013, I have to ask whether you have conquered your tendency to be embarrassed by those crazy, narrow-minded members of the church (I infer your opinion of them) who are so much less enlightened than yourself and your other secret disciple friends and towards whom you must remind/force yourself to swallow hard in order to show them love? Have the past six years brought you closer to Christ? Or, as I would think, based on this seven-year-old blog post, you are further away from Christ than ever before?

    • Your point is well taken, AD. I am sorry for any offense that my 7-year-ago-self may have brought to you.

      I can see why you might infer that I thought of my brethren as “crazy and narrow-minded members of the church,” but in truth I think of them as “good-hearted and unconsciously legalistic members of my family.”

      A family that I’m grateful for, indebted to, loved by, and still serving within. Even when I feel called to play the role of “prophet” – they are mine and I am theirs, warts and all on both sides.

      But as with any family, we have disagreements, and we sometimes handle each other with skepticism and emotional reaction, rather than with generosity and understanding.

      I’ve been given more than my fair share of the latter, and try to spend my life doing the same for others.

      My tendency back then was to be embarrassed of my own past self: a legalist that was converting people to worship a certain way on Sunday’s and saying that it was conversion to Christ. And I do believe that I have, with God’s help, conquered that tendency. So perhaps if I were to give that post another go today, it would have less “juice” behind it, and be less offensive, and more humble, and not come across as it did to you.

      As to your last question, I think that in some ways I am closer to Christ, and in others I have never been farther. How can one tell? Feelings? Knowledge? Confidence? Shew…what a question. A good one. (And I’m not being dull here, I know you intended the question as a critical statement about what you thought of my post – but I really liked the question.)

      I know one thing, that in what Jesus says is the most important arena that exists on heaven and earth, the arena of love, I am a beginner.

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